Wednesday, June 1, 2016

The difference a year makes

I have not posted an update in almost a year, and that year has been quite tumultuous. So, very quick run down. I was pregnant and gave birth to my son this past spring. We moved from DC to State College, PA, sold our house, and I kept my full-time job, now working it remotely. We're currently in the process of buying a new home, and I can't wait for that to happen. It has been a period of unrest and change, and I am ready to settle back down again. I love our new area. I can pitch the hell out of State College as a Penn Stater. It is every alum's dream to come back and stay for good. I am living it. I get to do a job I love in a place I love with my even bigger family. I am ready to make this work.

So! If you follow me on Instagram, you know I have still been keeping busy with cooking and parenting. I am nearing the end of my maternity leave, hopefully around the same time we will be closing on our new home. Things will someday speed back up, but for right now, I am holding my son as he sleeps and considering how a year can change a person.

I am not sure what the direction of this blog will be now. It has always been about me and my ideas, so that will naturally stay the same - probably just less urban. State College is like a suburb with no city, unless you count the university. It really is more rural than anything, but it doesn't feel that way. There is a lack of rushing that is refreshing, especially as summer rolls along. The sky is blue and sunny today with a few clouds, it is warm without being oppressive yet, and I have the space to breathe. I battle internally with wanting to do more, but I am used to the feeling.

Some topics I may write about in future posts: tandem nursing and nursing aversion; my picky-eater Angel Pie, and the issues she's been having with her promotion to big sister; and how I took to the baby blues and changing hormones this time around. It will be helpful for me to hash these things out, and it may be helpful for you to read them. I am a different person lately, and who knows how much of that is due to lack of sleep. I want to live the best life I can, and writing may help me do that.

So for now, let's embrace summer and not try to rush it for cooler months, as I am wont to do. I want to live my life and enjoy my time, the right now time, and not keep looking for someday. What I am doing right now is not good enough - it is just plain good.

Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Nursing, long-term

No breastfeeding mother knows how long she is going to nurse. Many nursing moms have an idea or goal of how long they would like to nurse, of how old she would like her child to be, but I would imagine very few have a hard deadline in mind - no nursing after this point. Some moms don't get the chance to nurse very long, and I applaud their efforts for trying. I have been nursing (the same child) for almost 33 months now, which may be the flip side of that coin. I love nursing my daughter, and I feel confident knowing that I am giving her the most nutritious food that is designed just for her little body. She's growing awesomely, getting smarter and bigger everyday, so I don't regret the choice. I never expected to be nursing this long, though. I honestly didn't give it much thought while I was pregnant, and before I was pregnant, I didn't consider it at all. I knew I wanted to nurse, and when it worked out, I kept at it. I pumped for about a year, and now, I'm just plain nursing when I'm home with my baby. I've been through six different sets of nursing bras; the set from right after my pregnancy, when I was bigger in the chest, a smaller set for when I lost the pregnancy weight (it went fairly quickly), a third set when I hit my pre-pregnancy equilibrium, a fourth set to replace the third that I just plain wore out, a fifth replacement to replace the fourth, and sixth after my size shrunk yet again. Each time I purchase new nursing bras, I wonder, maybe this will be the last set! And then it isn't. Someday, I will be able to purchase shirts without considering how easily I can expose one or both of my breasts (my daughter is a twiddler). That day does not appear to be soon, though, so I expect that this September, I will start my third year of nursing. That is a long time to be relying on camis and cardis alone.

Lately, I've been wondering--doesn't anyone make cute nursing wear? The majority of my nursing wardrobe consists of camisoles from Lane Bryant and frankly, cheapie camis (under $5 a piece) from Amazon, and v-neck tees from Old Navy. I have a few camis, shirts, and dresses from Motherhood Maternity, but I mostly wear them at home as pajamas - they don't make the cut as business wear. I wear my nursing bras to work even though I'm not pumping anymore because when I get home, my daughter likes to nurse immediately and I don't get the chance to change my clothes. If I try, she cries, so I oblige. The shirts I wear to work are not so nursing-friendly, so I'm often pulling up the hemlines and exposing my belly. When I was pumping, luckily I had a completely private and lockable nursing room, and I would just take off my shirt, or sometimes even my dress if I needed. It was a single-occupancy room, so I was lucky. I would still wear pumping- or nursing-friendly clothing when I could, though, simply because it saved time not to have to undress and redress. Looking back, though, this a big chunk of my life to have such limited wardrobe options, and this is just for my first child. If I have another baby anytime soon, or more than one, I could easily spend a quarter of my life nursing and dealing with inconvenient clothing in the process.

With that in mind, I have compiled a list of retailers that sell nursing gear with the hopes of giving some desparate moms more places to look for fun and fashionable clothing.

Monday, November 17, 2014

Craving-Crushing BLT

      This past weekend, I satisfied a very strong food craving: a BLT. I am not sure when the craving started, but I know it lasted weeks, perhaps because I rarely eat bacon. Not that I have anything against bacon, mind you. Mmm, salty crunchy goodness. But, you know, health reasons, so I don't usually have it in the house. I may rethink that, though—a bit of bacon in the freezer for when a craving strikes or there is enough time to make a tasty breakfast is far from a sin. I digress.

      I wanted bacon, and I wanted it in the form of a fresh, crunchy, creamy (mayo) BLT. I thought my prayers were answered when I found a local bakery offering up a rendition on toasted brioche, but I was disappointed by the order. They charged $5+ for a sandwich that was hardly wider than a single strip of bacon. Hardly any lettuce, and it was iceberg (useless!), barely any bacon, and zero crunch, and a tasteless probably beefsteak tomato. The only thing we got right was pairing the sandwich with mineral water. I could do better, I thought, and so I planned my grocery trip to Wegmans.

      My first change was the bread—I picked up some fresh croissants from their bakery. Next, the produce—I opted for arugula for some crunch and punch, and I was crazy-lucky to find an heirloom tomato this far out of season. I realize this sandwich will taste even better next June, but I can hardly wait as long as I already have, so imported heirloom was as good as I was going to get. Finally, the bacon—we went with Uncured Applewood Smoked. I probably would have gone organic, but I couldn't find it, so I opted to trust Wegmans's "Food You Feel Good About" classification.

      Back at home, there were just a few things I needed to do to get the sandwich just right. First, I lightly buttered and toasted the croissants—tricky as croissants are so airy inside, but with the effort. Second, I used a good-quality jarred mayo. I bet you could take the sandwich that much further with homemade mayo. Maybe next time. This time, I used Spectrum Naturals Organic.

      Finally, to the good part. I cooked my bacon in a cold oven, as recommended by Danilo Alfaro, the Culinary Arts expert at About.com—easy, I can walk away and not worry about grease spattering about, and I collect the bacon grease for later use. I built my sandwich with arugula first and last, mayo on top, and bacon and tomato inside. My husband even sprinkled the tomato with a bit of Maldon sea salt. He opted for some Maille dijon mustard, but I avoided it on purpose. The scene was set, the water was poured, lemon sliced, and my sandwich was ready.


Bliss.

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Craving-Crushing BLT
Ingredients
  • 4 slices bacon
  • 2 croissants
  • butter
  • 1 heirloom tomato
  • arugula
  • mayonaisse
Instructions
Line a baking sheet with foil. Arrange bacon slices on sheet, place in cold oven, and preheat to 400°. Close the oven door and walk away. Set timer for 17-25 minutes (mine took 22 minutes to get to my preferred amount of crispness).While bacon is cooking, preheat a skillet. Half croissants lengthwise and lightly butter. Toast in skillet for a minute or two until you reach your desired level of toastiness.Spread mayo (and mustard, if you must) on one half of each croissant.Slice tomatoes into quarter- to half-inch thick slices. Have arugula on stand-by.When bacon is done, remove from pan and place on paper-towel-lined plate to dry while assembling sandwich.My order: arugula, tomato, bacon, more arugula, top of croissant with mayo. Put stuff on croissant to your liking and consume with relish.
Details
Prep time: Cook time: Total time: Yield: 2 sandwiches

Friday, July 18, 2014

New Shoe Blues

     I made an error in judgment last Monday. I was on my way to work when I decided to get off of the train a stop early and pick up my watch band.

     My everyday Burberry watch's iconic plaid-leather band had been disintegrating, and after a few Google searches and phone calls, the solution was to visit my local Burberry store to see about obtaining a replacement. The store was a little out of my way, so it took me a while to find the time to be in the area and stop in. I am glad I finally did, though, because their customer service was excellent, they were able to obtain the band earlier than predicted, and they even tried to get it in before I left for my vacation. I ended up not being able to pick it up, unfortunately, because my Angel Pie became ill, and then we left for our trip, so I felt badly about not picking it up, so I tried to get it as soon as I got back into town.

     Back to yesterday. I was excitedly wearing a new pair of shoes,

and because they were flats and I thought ahead to put in heel liners, I didn't think twice about attempting the walk, even in the 90°+ heat. That was the wrong decision. Almost immediately, I developed blisters on both heels. Upon leaving Burberry, the blister on my left heel broke. I hobbled to the nearest CVS, going to the extreme of stomping down on the back of my does to stop the rubbing. At CVS, I grabbed lunch supplies and blister first aid--blister-specific bandages, knee-highs, footies, and Band-Aid Friction Block Stick. If only I would have thought to apply the last product in the first place, I wouldn't be in this situation. After my purchase, I hobbled to my office.

     The first set of blister bandages ended up being a bust when used with the footies. I think the footies would have been useful in the first place as well, but at this point, they just broke the seal of the bandage. The second set of bandages worked better because I left my shoes off for mostly the rest of the day, with the exceptions of restroom trips. I still had to make it home, though. I added the knee-highs and removed the heel guards, and hobbled to the train station. Thank goodness my walk is short.

     From my train stop, I had my husband bring my sandals. Big improvement in terms of pain. I was able to walk almost normally through a quick grocery store run. At home, though, the hem of my pants became an irritant, bumping the raw skin of my left heel pretty constantly. I thought I would fare best to leave the broken blister uncovered overnight. Huge mistake.

     I got about four and a half hours of sleep. There was no comfortable position for my heel. I couldn't get up much to find something to fix it because my Angel Pie nursed a lot. Add to my pain the fact that our poor elderly kitty caterwauled constantly all night. She's old and currently dealing with untreated anxiety issues, and since returning with us from our trip, she had been going nuts. We made a vet appointment for this weekend to address these issues, but until then, she's going to meow incessantly, which makes the quality of sleep terrible for everyone.

     For my work day today, I am faring pretty well with my sandals and my heel covered with antibiotic ointment, gauze, and a bandage. Our medical tape was not sticky at all. I may run to CVS again for more supplies, especially for overnight.

     What have I learned? Mostly, don't attempt a long walk in bare feet with new shoes. If I would have stuck to my normal routine, I probably would have been fine, even despite the heat. I seem to forget this and reteach myself this lesson about once a year. I hope this will be the last time!

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Sale Alert! Village Square Tealight Trio from PartyLite

     Blogged about in a previous post, I today learned that the Village Square Tealight Trio from PartyLite is on sale during the vendor's Christmas in July promotion.

Village Square Tealight Trio
, $30 $12-$16 for the set of three

I really loved this piece, but the original price was $30, and I couldn't justify it at the time. Today, I picked up the piece for a mere $12 + shipping! Curiously enough, now the link lists the product as $16 although my receipt confirms that I paid $12--could the price raise as supply wanes? Who knows, but if you want one on sale before it disappears, now is the time.

Sunday, June 15, 2014

Makeup for the commute!

     I have a confession to make. I used to judge women who put on a whole face of makeup on the train. I am lucky enough to have the majority of my commuting time on the WMATA Metro (well, lucky 75% of the time, stuck in delays for the rest). Sometimes, I see women applying their full makeup routine on the train, and I used to think, "Ugh, why don't you do that at home?" I think I now know the answer for some of those women--they have kids.

     I offer up my morning for example. I woke early so I could be on time for a work meeting. I went to the kitchen to feed the cat, started packing lunch, got caught up in straightening up so the babysitter wouldn't see what slobs we are (we're not hiding it very well), came back upstairs to get ready just as the baby started crying, spent time soothing her, then showered, dressed, and ran out the door late without coffee and with my hair still wet. Early efforts go out the window. When I'm at home, my time goes to the family, and that is the have-it-all tradeoff of the working mom. I don't regret it (with the exception of a wet head on cold mornings), but my train commute is what allows me to still present a makeup-professional face when I walk into the office.

     I am now a woman who applies her morning makeup on the train. There are some concessions that a commute makeup application must make. As I am applying makeup on the go, everything must be low-mess and easily transportable, able to fit in my purse without taking over. This really streamlines the process and products. Through trial and error, I have chosen my favorites.


My entire commuting makeup collection, dumped from my makeup bag.


Before and after, five minutes tops, a professional face of makeup.

     This is non-makeup, but if I didn't get a chance to apply my favorite face lotion that morning, I keep a slender bottle of L'Oreal Paris Youth Code Texture Perfector Pore Vanisher. I know that most of the time, pore minimizers are just hocum, but I decided to try this product after reading this comment from The Beauty Brains. TL;DR--although they didn't share the data, L'oreal must have some research to back up their claims, or else they could be sued. The product itself reminds me of a light primer--it feels very silicone-based, and seems to help with my oily skin. I'm not using it day and night like the box instructs, but maybe I will once I run out of my current Garnier jar. L'Oreal Paris Youth Code Texture Perfector Pore Vanisher is much pricier than my Garnier gel-lotion, but it is still drugstore-available, so I'll think on it. For now, though, the very portable bottle is in my purse makeup bag.

     On to makeup. I start with foundation. My skin is oily and doesn't take well to liquid foundations, so I prefer mineral powder foundations. My favorite brand currently is L'Oreal Paris True Match Mineral Pressed Powder. It is a pressed mineral powder with a sponge, and the package includes the mirror I use to apply the rest of my makeup. I like the True Match like because it offers a lot of shade variations. I have pretty fair skin, but it is usually just a hair darker than most brand's lightest shade, but the next darkest shade is too dark. The True Match line has three "lightest" shades based on skin undertones. I find the W2 shade "Light Ivory" is pretty much my skin exactly, and I can get it in a variety of forms: liquid, mousse, powder, or mineral. I had searched for a while and returned some products in my search for the right shade. This is it.

     I love the next product that I'm going to talk about--L'Oreal Paris Studio Secrets Professional The One Sweep Eye Shadow. Before I used this, I was a fan of Neutrogena Crease-Proof Eye Shadow, but I found that the L'oreal product suited me much better. I prefer the "Natural for Brown Eyes" shade. The reviews of this product on Amazon are either "amazing!" or "terrible!" I fall in the amazing camp. Maybe it has to do with the shades in the version I use, but I think that the one-sweep gives me the eye color and shading that looks like it took way more than a few seconds and a single swipe. It looks much better than I can do on my own. I also own a different shade in this product, and I don't like it as much as I like the "Natural for Brown Eyes" blend. When you are on a bumpy train, you don't have the time or room or effort to carry around multiple shades and brushes, and that this does it in one swipe--perfect for me.

     To finish off my eyes, I use mascara. Full disclosure, I tried using mascara and eyeliner for a while, but I suck at eyeliner. I don't know why, maybe it's the shape of my eyes, maybe it's the fact that my mom didn't let me perfect it in high school, maybe it wasn't big when I was a teenager like it is for teens now, but yeah--a 13-year-old could out-eyeliner me. I'm okay with that. On the train, mascara provides enough poke-danger, so I don't need to go overboard. I think that for the appearance I'm aiming for--work professional--eyeliner ends up being too much anyway. So, knowing that my eyeliner skills are lacking, guess how my mascara skills are? Needing help! So that's why I really love Maybelline New York Volum Express Falsies Big Eyes Washable Mascara. You get two brushes! One for the top lashes, and a tiny that doesn't get overly goopy or springy for the lower ones. Genius! I know exactly where the mascara is going, and it's just so much easier for me to manage, especially on a moving train.

     Finally, I finish with lip color. I have very strong opinions about lip color. For example, I don't like to wear glosses--I think they are a young lady's game, and I dislike that when the wind blows, my hair gets stuck on my lips. So no water-wet lip looks for me. I also feel that straight-up lipsticks are dated. If you're going for a retro look, that's one thing, but I don't think there are many women who are going for a plain tube of lipstick when there are so many other options. For me, the best alternative is a colored balm--you get sheer color coverage, but and you don't dry out your lips. I personally prefer Burt's Bees for my lip color. I don't usually buy into the greenwashing of cosmetics and toiletries, but I know based on experience--the non-natural balms still dry out my lips and Burt's Bees balms do not. I was using L'Oreal Paris Colour Riche Lip Balm for a while, as I like their color offerings better, but my lips would still grow flakey, so I went back to Burt's Bees, and my lips returned to feeling in good health. My favorite shades are Apricot, Cherry, Fig, and Peony. I'll have to try not to buy any others or else my makeup bag will be all lip colors.

     And that's that! Five products, no more than five minutes, and I become Business Tish, ready for what the day will throw at me, and those five minutes do not take any time away from my Angel Pie and family. Out of a forty minute commute, five minutes to spare to make me feel prepared and professional is well worth it.

Friday, May 2, 2014

Mom Advice! Teething and biting during breastfeeding

     One question that comes up often at Moms.com is biting and breastfeeding. If you breastfeed long enough for a baby to grow teeth, most likely, you will experience this. However, babies can bite while nursing regardless of whether they have teeth. It hurts more with teeth then without. It's funny in the beginning without teeth. It's much less funny when the teeth start popping up.

Can it hurt you?
     Yes, but probably not to the extent that you need to stop nursing. Whether you want to stop nursing because of it is a different matter.

What if I'm bleeding?
     Nipple cream is your friend. Blood in your milk is okay and will not hurt the baby. If you can, nurse or pump through it. It will feel better with time.

Can I teach my baby not to bite me?
     You can try! I tried, but it never really worked. She would still bite at the end of nursing or when she thought I should be paying attention. At times, it even made me angry--it hurt! But I swallowed my frustration and kept nursing.

Does it ever stop?
     I think this is the most important point in my article--yes! And then you think you're out of the woods, and it can begin again! The important thing to remember is that biting is a symptom of teething, and that when the teeth and jaw feel better, the biting will stop. If you can wait it out, it could be worth it!

     My daughter had two spells of biting me while nursing. The first happened around eight months, and I swear, it seemed like it would never end. The second one happened around a year, and was just as long. In reality, they probably didn't last longer than a month apiece, and she stopped doing it after her teeth stopped bothering her. I tried to teach her not to bite me, but it never really worked. She would still bite at the end of nursing or when she thought I should be paying attention (at least it felt that way). At times, it even made me angry--it hurt! But I swallowed my frustration and kept nursing. I'm glad I did, though, because once her teeth stopped bothering her, she stopped bothering me, and we continue to nurse with ease.

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Mom Advice! Making the medicine go down--can you change the medicine?

     I have recently accepted a part-time position on Moms.com as a Site Hostess, and as such, I've been composing a lot of short advice articles related to my first-time parenting experineces. I thought it could be helpful to share some of those advice articles here.

     Getting your baby or toddler to take medicine can be difficult. I realize that if you are talking about a perscription, then that's that, and there may be no other options. However, if you are talking about OTC medications, you may be able to try different brands or formulations. While my baby is teething, we offer pain reliever. My daughter hates all pain relievers EXCEPT dye-free CVS generic ibuprofen--that she takes without issue. We've tried name brands, and even CVS generic with dye, and she refuses them. I'm glad we found a version that works, and maybe if you fall into this situation, you can too.

     I also once read advice that if you give baby a small dropper of water every day, baby will get used to this and be more likely to take medications in the future. I haven't tried this exactly, but when my Angel-Pie was under six months old, we did have to give her reflux medication. Because of that, when I had to give her other medications later on (like ibuprofen), she didn't fight them as much as I expected--she was used to the idea of drinking liquid from a dropper. I think that saved us a lot of trouble.


Cross-posted @ Moms.com

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Article: 5 Workplace Rights That Every Pregnant Woman Needs To Know

     Many women don't know the full extent of their rights as pregnant and nursing mothers. Check out these five things you should know. Includes information about hiring AND breastfeeding.



5 Workplace Rights That Every Pregnant Woman Needs To Know


Cross-posted @ Moms.com

Wednesday, March 5, 2014

30! Wonderbar things to remember from my birthday

     I am officially 30 years old! No regrets here, no fighting my age, at least in a mental sense. I've been ready for my 30's for a long time. Physically, I've been doing my research on The Beauty Brains with the help of their website, showgrams, and book, checking my acitve ingredients and so forth. I'm finding that I once really bought into the hype. I'm looking forward to turning a new leaf with an honest beauty regiment. Let's be wiser in our 30's, right?

     With that, here is an official list of the things that made my 30th birthday special.
  • Marmi Shoes. My favorite store for quality, wide-width shoes. I made a birthday-gift-type purchase, but it's really more of an investment, as these shoes will last me ages.
  • SparrowWoodStudio's Etsy store. I've been on the hunt for a stamped mother's necklace that would hold all of the characters of my Angel Pie's name. If you want something special done correctly, go custom. When I found SparrowWoodStudio, I knew I found the right place.
  • It's OK to have Lead in Your Lipstick, the text mentioned above and pictured below. A very informative read!
  • Wubbzy's Dance Party, app by Cupcake Digital Inc. My Angel Pie is into Wow! Wow! Wubbzy, but only as a tablet app. She still doesn't watch television, but I wonder how long that will last. Anywho, we received the Wubbzy's Dinosaur Adventure through a Free Friday's Nook Blog offering, and we decided to buy another. There's a character that exclaims "Wunderbar!" in the app, and my Angel Pie thinks that's just hilarious, so now I'm exclaiming it too.
  • Twin Peaks. Okay, this is a weird one. My husband and I are big fans of the show Psych, and we were watching the Twin Peaks-based episode, Dual Spires. But, we knew we were missing MOST of the jokes because we never watched Twin Peaks. Well, we started on my birthday, and it was fun.
  • Duolingo. While browsing around my app store, I stumbled upon this app. I've been yearning to brush up on my Deutche, so I downloaded, created an account, and started playing. It's really good!
  • Wegmans. My wonderful husband took a secret trip to Wegmans and bought me my favorite things. The word you are looking for is decedent.
Lobster Bisque | Virgil's Cream Soda | Jumbo Fresh Steamed Shrimp
Prosciutto di Parma | Gustosella Mozzarella Di Bufala Campana D.O.P.
Angus Beef Prime Tenderloin Steak | Lobster Tail
Triple Chocolate Mousse Cake | Ghirardelli Double Chocolate Brownie Mix
And that's how I spent my day! It was relaxing, and I felt very loved. Onward and upward!



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